So… You’ve Got a Crush? Let’s Talk About It!

Okay, so, we’re back, and this time it’s about those sneaky feelings that
creep up unknowingly and sometimes on purpose.

Don’t be shyyyyy or feel awkward. You are not alone, girllll. We’ve all been there,
had an obsessive crush on that one guy who just decided to leave the
school or the quiet girl who’s just too focused on her books or has strict
parents— just like in all those high school movies, only this time, it happened to you.

To have a crush on someone (in my books) is just to be attracted to
someone in a way more than friendship. And it usually sneaks up
unexpectedly, so watch out, don’t say I didn’t warn you or did nothing for you.

Alright, alright, let’s dig into it.

Sometimes, crushes might seem like the weirdest thing ever when they start to fill your thoughts, but they
can also teach you a lot about what you value. I don’t have the answers on what to do with a crush, but hey, here’s what I think;

DON’T CHANGE YOURSELF:

It’s perfectly normal to have a crush, but don’t alter your personality or interests just to fit into their circle. Who knows, they might secretly like you for who you are. Even if they don’t, I assure you, their opinion isn’t as important as it might seem. Don’t lose yourself, your values, or your beliefs for someone who hasn’t even noticed you. It might not be easy, but remember, it’s not worth it, even if it feels like it is.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO…

What exactly don’t you have to do? I’m glad you asked. You don’t have to tell them. It’s perfectly fine to remain quiet, and even if you’re curious about their thoughts, you don’t have to share yours unless you want to. I assure you, resisting peer pressure won’t cause you to miss out on anything. Don’t feel compelled to discuss your feelings with your crush. Being true to yourself means doing what you know is right.

NOT THE END OF THE WORLD

Now, if you are bold and brave and tell them… please don’t let a harsh
response kill you. Or even a response that is gently delivered yet full of
Hiroshima words(iykyk). Guys, I’m sorry if they’re such jerks and can’t
appreciate you and the value that you bring and the importance, you’re
bestowing on them. But… not everyone’s going to like you in that way, so
when you get rejected, don’t give up on everything.

Don’t hate on my page because my advice didn’t work or change your whole personality, just
accept it. If it’s too much to bear, talk to someone you trust. Just remember, your worth is not in their hands.

FINALLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY,
Here’s what I think of this. I’m definitely one to take my own advice, and I
give it because I’ve been in similar situations. Crushes, they’ll eventually go
away, but while they’re here, give them a chance. Don’t let them take over
you, but don’t overprioritize them either. Don’t lose yourself or your faith just
because of teenhood drama; you’re worth more.

Do you have any fun, crush stories or any deep, sad ones? Please share
With us, we’re in this together, that’s why it’s Spillin’ Teanager!